“We teach people how to treat us.” This has been my theme song this week.
There are a few situations that I’ve allowed others to decide for me, and a few people I’ve almost completely given my power to. I’ve catered and caved to their whims and it hasn’t worked out well–for me or them. I am not a pushover, at least I’ve never considered myself so, but I’m definitely a people pleaser in some situations. Funnily, in other scenarios I will not bend at all. I have been a people pleaser in two specific yet unrelated situations recently. And trying to please each of them did not garner positive results.
There’s something to be said for doing things the way I think they should be done and allowing others to conform to me. It’s not a self-serving, holier-than-thou thing. It’s a ‘you take care of you, I’ll take care of me’ thing. I had a huge ‘a ha’ this week regarding this situation. I discovered that, in many ways, I don’t treat myself like I have a right to a voice or to even be here. It’s unhealthy and unfair, to me and to the others I interact with.
We are all winging it, some of us better than others. And those who wing it and believe in themselves do a much better job than those who second guess. I choose to be in the former category.